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Terrell Johnson's avatar

I'll never forget the feeling of when we took our (now 9-year-old) son home from the hospital just a few days after he was born. "You mean they're just LETTING US TAKE HIM HOME???!!!!!" I was just astounded. After all the care and precautions you take in the hospital, during the birth and immediately after, the nurses just put him in the car with us and said, "good luck!!" Still blows me away!!! Loved this post.

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Banach Space Program's avatar

I don't have children, but I had similar situations when I was teaching - what was the rule in my classroom wasn't always the rule in other classrooms. I stole a ton of ideas from people in this community about classroom rules/policies - and, for high schoolers, "treat them like adults until they give you reason not to, have the rules be clear, and explain the reasoning behind the rules" really smoothed most of the concerns.

As did occasionally breaking the rules, but requiring they clean up all evidence if they wanted it to ever happen again, which I thought of as, "don't tell your mother! But...." situations.

Anyway, all of this leads to my parenting advice, from somebody who spent many years dealing with the outcomes of other people's parenting - "if you're thinking about how and why for this, you're already better than three-quarters of parents, at minimum, so don't worry!"

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